Strength from Difficulty

We are made strong by the difficulties we face not by those we evade.

~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

I have learned...

I have learned that...
you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
No matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
It's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
You can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.
No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
You should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
There are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
True friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. The same goes for true love.
Just because someone doesnt love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
No matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
No matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
Just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other.And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
We don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
You shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
There are so many ways of falling and staying in love.
No matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
The people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
Although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
Love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.
There are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it.
Every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I still have a lot to learn...... 

by Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Family of Choice

Friends are the siblings God forgot to give us.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

BFF

Friends are for now, best friends are forever.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Solitude in Life

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

San Diego Sun

When you live in Southern California, everybody says, 'It's so expensive there!' I tell them, 'It is simply a very expensive weather tax.'




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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

San Diego Rain

People in San Diego

can not

Drive

when it rains.

It scares them. 

They act as if they are driving in a massive blizzard!

Those who don't drive,

enjoy the rain

because 

it 

is a refreshing change of pace.

 When you live in Southern California, everybody says, 'It's so expensive there.' 

 I tell them that it is's just a very expensive weather tax!

~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Listen to me and your life will change!

Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don't be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally know who you are.
~~~
Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Remember Yourself

Throughout our lives we are different people from start to finish. We don't stay the same forever, but that's good so long as you remember all the people you used to be in the past. Remember who you were and remember how that made you feel.

~~~ 
Stephie Pahlavi Zan

3 Evolving People in One Changing Body

Who you were, Who you are, And who you will become are three different people.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Dysfunctional Families vs Family of Choice

Blood makes you related. 

Love makes you family.

~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Build a Door

If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door.

Who do we trust?

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

If we are bound to forgive an enemy, we are not bound to trust him.

When I'm trusting and being myself... everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily.

Can we only trust ourself in the end?

 

Stephie Pahlavi Zan 

Insect Repellant

I can not tolerate dim witted, ignorant and imbecilic individuals who believe they know what you should do in your life better than you do.

Do you notice how these strangers are the first to spew their non-sense onto others?

These people are like annoying flies in your face...trying to take a bite out of you.

They have failed miserably in their own relationships and lives, which is why YOUR life is more interesting to them.

It is like their attempts to spew venom onto you...only because misery loves company.

Well, I do not desire to allow anyone to falsely believe they may live in my head.

It is always those who do not even know you, your life or even have a notion of who you are, who have the most to say.

Get the insect repellant!

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

My Dog will Always be My Baby...

I always say, " My dog Chloe is My daughter who will never grow up."

She will forever be My baby...no matter how old.

This is how consistent she is.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

My Dog Chloe

" My dog, Chloe, is My best friend, My partner, My defender. I am her life, her love and her leader. She will be mine, faithful and true, to the last beat of her heart. I would die for Chloe. If you have never had the opportunity and pleasure of having a dog, you will think I'm crazy. If you have a dog of your own, you will understand exactly. "

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Marriage Luck

Marriage

will be

Wonderful 

if

I'm

Lucky

enough

to Marry

My

Best 

Friend.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

JERKS

Don’t you become disgusted by people who try to turn their bad actions into your fault….instead of being elegant enough to say they were wrong and wish to say sorry?

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Progression of Life and Light

I love you, my dear friend!

Yes...I feel you.

Tell me now, why this is the most difficult period of your life?

Haven't you had difficult times that challenged you in the past?

I'm sure you have.

Did you live through the difficult periods?

Yes! You are still here.

We tend to forget what difficulties and depressions we survived.

It is the same with this.

Will you move on?

If you see fit.......you will.

And what will happen?

You shall move forward with your life......as you did before.

Do not allow ANYONE to bring you down in any way.
For this is not the essence of love.

If someone displays signs of apathy towards you.....

especially when they can see you in this condition .....

Move on.

The Universe has something better waiting for you.

We all learn as we go along in life....

think of this as a test......a test of your inner strength you never even were aware of.

The test is arduous.

But it is essential.

When you least expect it,

whatever your heart desires will be brought into fruition!

You will see then, that what woes you experienced were only to make you stronger and more focused.

With this behind you......your strength will come into fruition and you shall

surprise yourself.

Did you ever imagine that something even better was fighting for you?

Allow the fight to ease it's way into your soul...

and you shall experience nirvana and the essence of life...

the life you never imagined in your wildest dreams!

~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Getting Ahead

Our goal in life should be to get ahead of other people, but to get ahead of ourselves.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

A BEAT

You know what is funny? We go long periods of time without seeing or talking with one another......but when we do, it's like we never missed a beat.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Soar

If you want to soar with Eagles.....You have to stop flying with Pigeons.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Road of Life

I may not know where I'm heading...

But I sure do know what I've been.

 Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Feel Sorry for Haters

Remember, haters only hate the person they can't be.

Jealousy means that you have low self-esteem, and therefore, consider yourself inferior to others.

Jealousy is to the soul what 

sickness is to the body.

Someone who Hates you normally Hates you for one of three reasons, they either see you as a threat, they Hate themselves or they want to be you.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan