Dead Plants

Stop watering dead plants...

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Quotes from Stephie Pahlavi Zan: Uneducated Gossip is a Very Pitiable Way of Fillin...

I am writing to comment on slanderous references to me, communicated by individuals who do not know me. Since I live by Eleanor Roosevelt's assertion, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people," I will not honor ad hominem attacks with words in kind. I can only state that people who engage in defamation against someone with whom they are not acquainted (or, much less, apprehend the facts, which they do _not_ take time to verify) do nothing more than waste time and fill a pitiable void in their own lives. I wish them well, while categorically refuting their falsehoods.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Quotes from Stephie Pahlavi Zan: Mozart- Magic Flute. "Queen of the Night Aria"

Quotes from Stephie Pahlavi Zan: Mozart- Magic Flute. "Queen of the Night Aria":

I LOVE Natalie Dessay's performance! I see Diana Damrau may have
dominated the search results for "Queen of the Night" aria but Damrau is
missing something Dessay figured out. Damrau's version of the Queen was
always consistently menacing and in control. Dessay's version tried to
be more balanced by giving the Queen vulnerability. Dessay successfully
portrayed a woman whose ideas became so extreme she lost her sanity but
had enough restraint to stay in control, which is very difficult
to perform. When Damrau performed the "high notes" to indicate the
Queen was laughing she seemed more like she was berating and scolding.
Dessay genuinely appeared to be laughing during the high notes, which,
was Mozart's intent. The Queen was giving a maniacal laugh because she
was going insanely incensed from the personal anguish of being oppressed
as a woman. Dessay's performance had a lot more risk in that respect
but gave a more complex portrayal of the Queen.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Fear / Free

Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Doubt

When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Mozart- Magic Flute. "Queen of the Night Aria"

I LOVE Natalie Dessay's performance! I see Diana Damrau may have
dominated the search results for "Queen of the Night" aria but Damrau is
missing something Dessay figured out. Damrau's version of the Queen was
always consistently menacing and in control. Dessay's version tried to
be more balanced by giving the Queen vulnerability. Dessay successfully
portrayed a woman whose ideas became so extreme she lost her sanity but
had enough restraint to stay in control, which is very difficult to
perform. When Damrau performed the "high notes" to indicate the Queen
was laughing she seemed more like she was berating and scolding. Dessay
genuinely appeared to be laughing during the high notes, which, was
Mozart's intent. The Queen was giving a maniacal laugh because she was
going insanely incensed from the personal anguish of being oppressed as a
woman. Dessay's performance had a lot more risk in that respect but
gave a more complex portrayal of the Queen.



Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Are you Distorted?

So many people are most miserable these days.

The reason they find it so difficult to be happy is that they always view the past to be better than it was, the present dramatically worse than it is, and the future less resolute than it will be.

The idea of happiness is foreign to them. 

Is this not something that is innate because babies are born with

"tabula rasa" which refers to the epistemological idea that individuals are born without built-in mental content and that therefore all knowledge comes from experience or perception. However I don't disagree with the doctrine of Innatism which holds that the mind is born already in possession of certain knowledge.

A smile, for instance is natural and innate! 
So it is a combination of the two schools of thought.

 

It is unfortunate that the negativity experienced over rides the beautiful positives.

How can so many people

be so distorted?

I believe it stems from family dysfunctions.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Keep your side of the street clean

It is much easier to simply love everyone...

 Good or bad. 

For me or against me. 

Known or unknown. 

That way it is their bad karma, not mine.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Uneducated Gossip is a Very Pitiable Way of Fillin...

I am writing to comment on slanderous references to me, communicated by individuals who do not know me. Since I live by Eleanor Roosevelt's assertion, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people," I will not honor ad hominem attacks with words in kind. I can only state that people who engage in defamation against someone with whom they are not acquainted (or, much less, apprehend the facts, which they do _not_ take time to verify) do nothing more than waste time and fill a pitiable void in their own lives. I wish them well, while categorically refuting their falsehoods.

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

The Tree

When the roots of a tree are deep,

there is no reason to be frightened by the strong 

wind.

Living with fear stops us from taking risks, and if 

you don’t go out on the branch of the tree, you’re 

never 

going to get the best fruit.

~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Move On

When your priorities are straight;

Decisions are easy to make.

Sometimes it is very arduous to move on, but

You shall realize it was the Best Decision 

you have ever made.

I left a very secure position

to take a new and intimidating

position in The Big City.

I became even bigger and better 

than I even thought!

Take a chance...

or else you shall regret it the rest of your

life.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

In the Moment, Forwards, or Backwards

If you don't live in the Moment;

You are looking Forward to Uncertainty

or Back to acute Pain, Fear, Regret and Remorse.

It is an Insane World...make it Simple.

~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday. ~~~ Stephie Pahlavi Zan

 
Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Follow Your Dream

You must follow your passion. 

You have got to figure out what it is you love and who you really are. 

Furthermore, you must have the courage to do so.

Follow your own dream.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Mediocre Life

No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Carry and Bear

Physical strength is measured by what we carry.

Inner strength is measured by what we can bear.

Strength

Sometimes you don't realize your own strength

Until you come face to face with 

Your greatest weaknesses .

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

True Friends

True Friends 

are those rare people who actually care about

what you are going through.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Commanding belt holes

Are you still letting your belt holes tell you how to wear your pants?
~~~~~
Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Think about it.

Don’t raise your voice, 

improve your argument.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Keep your mind focused

Haters are only distractions from your greater purpose. When you achieve your goals and success is no longer out of your comfort zone, not only will the haters be forgotten, but they will assuredly be looked upon as the prodigious fools that they are....

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Strength from Hardship

Your strength doesn't come from 

winning and luxury. 

It comes from 

struggles and hardship. Everything that 

you go through prepares you for the 

next level.

You will be stronger than before!

Don't wish for it.

Work for it.

~~~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Your strength doesn't come from winning. It comes from struggles and hardship. Everything that you go through prepares you for the next level

Your strength doesn't come from winning. It comes from struggles and hardship. Everything that you go through prepares you for the next level

Beautiful

If you say My Eyes are Beautiful....

...it is because They are Looking at You!

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Brave, Fierce, Free

May my heart be brave, my mind fierce and my spirit free.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Strongest Smile

Stay strong, 

make them wonder how you’re still smiling. 

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

No Negativity

Spectacular things

happen when you Remove yourself from Negativity.

~~~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Don't push yourself over the edge...

Try to maintain a healthy life and not push yourself over the edge.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Bad Friend

A good enemy can be better than the best of friend.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

My thoughts about my Friend, Whitney Houston

Why is it when a candle burns SO bright that it blinds us with it's magnificent beauty....it will burn out quicker also. It makes me very sad to lose a good friend, who had a huge talent...then that very talent crumbles. It tries and it tries...but it has been broken...never to be the same.

That is one way to remember Whitney (Houston). The other ways are to celebrate her life and great achievements!

Do not just sum her up to be a failure...because she was magnificent with a huge gift that she shared for so long. The end was terrible to watch...and her death was worse.

This was to be her come back album.

They manipulated her voice to sound like before....somewhat.

This only made the end worse. She toured with her broken voice. Disappointment after disappointment...even to us, her family and friends. It must have enormously sad for Cissy Houston who had to stand there and watch her daughter with her wings broken. I saw her trying not to cry while watching and hearing Whitney at the end who struggled to hit notes and sing things that came so easily to her before. It was heart breaking. To go from the highest highs of life......to (I hate to say it) the lowest lows.

This truly affected Christina...so much so that she Copycat killed herself shortly after. Why is the dreads of society with no talent...get to stay around this earth? Why Whitney? Why Christina?

I can't cry any longer...I tried to type through the tears...I hope you understand.

We used to go shopping at Riverside Square Mall. We were both from NJ and became very good friends. This is how I will remember her: She had a huge career with tons of awards and she dazzled everyone! That is My Whitney........My Nippy.

I LOVE YOU through it all.

Rest peacefully with the Angels in Heaven, My love....

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

I miss you and always will.

I love you!

An intelligent hell would be better than a stupid paradise. ~~~ Stephie Pahlavi Zan

An intelligent hell would be better than a doltish paradise.

~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Not Alive

I'm Living...

but I'm Not Alive.

~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Updated Version: SIGNS OF A TOXIC FAMILY

Depression is often a misunderstood and misdiagnosed concept. Given how debilitating and life-choking depression can be, it's really essential that we truly appreciate the complexity of this condition. A one size fits all label that obscures each individual's unique circumstances is terribly short-sighted and perhaps inhumane.

Often, depression is what I call situational. In other words, outside stressors and the culture that we live may cause, contribute to or exacerbate this disorder. When dysfunction appears at epidemic rates, we need to take a deeper look at what's going on.

I wrote 10 signs of a Toxic Family:

SIGNS OF A TOXIC FAMILY:

1) NOTHING YOU CAN SAY OR DO IS GOOD ENOUGH.

2) THEY COMMENT ON THE SMALLEST FLAW OR PERCEIVED IMPERFECTION.

3) THEY DRAG UP YOUR PAST AND WON'T ALLOW YOU TO BE DIFFERENT.

4) THEY ACT LIKE THEY ARE ABOVE YOU AND NEVER MAKE MISTAKES.

5) THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY AND ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE.

6) THEY ARE CRITICAL, CONTROLLING AND DON'T THINK ABOUT YOUR NEEDS.

7) THEY LEAVE YOU FEELING BEATEN, WOUNDED,  BATTERED, BRUISED AND TORN.

8) THEY VIOLATE OUR BOUNDARIES AND THEY NEVER RESPECT, " NO...".

9) THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU AND THEY LOVE TO SEE YOU SUFFER.

10) IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT THEM, AND WHAT THEY THINK, WANT AND FEEL.

Often those inflicting this situational depression are too doltish to know what they are doing to the individual.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

You can not make someone love you

I have learned that...
you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
No matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
It's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
You can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.
No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
You should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
There are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
True friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. The same goes for true love.
Just because someone doesnt love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
No matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
No matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
Just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other.And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
We don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
You shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
There are so many ways of falling and staying in love.
No matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
The people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
Although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
Love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.
There are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it.
Every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I still have a lot to learn...... 
 

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Human Rights!

The decrees Cyrus made on human rights were inscribed on a baked-clay cylinder. Cyrus the Great, the first king of Persia, freed the slaves of Babylon, 539 B.C. ... He declared that all people had the right to choose their own religion, and established racial equality. Persia!

Iran's History.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Don't Give Up

What is the purpose of our lives? 

Life's purpose is to be happy. 

We have no guarantee what will happen in the future, but we live in hope. 

 This is what keeps us trying and going.

If we can't enjoy the simple things in life;

We are missing the meaning of life. 

Don't give up. 

~~~~~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan 

Brand New Story ~ To the People of Iran

Let us not ponder upon the past. It will simply take us backwards.
Look to the future and start fresh.
Put all of your energy and thoughts into a brand new unblemished tomorrow.
It is of the essence.
Don't dream of something you have no idea about.
Don't drive in reverse.

The past is full of cobwebs and dust.

The future is new and clean.

Don't imagine that the past is better than where you are right now.

Renew.

Move forward.

If you are in a bad place, change it for the better, brighter and new you.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Down or Up

 I have always had parents that were controlling and I received only conditional love. My first 3 cars were Mercedes.....very nice cars but if I did not do what they said, they would take it away. Everything came with strings. I said I wanted to be an actor when I was a kid. My parents said, "Not everyone can be another Paul Newman." Ironically I went to Boarding School with his daughter and we would go to her house in Westport, CT. and naturally met her famous parents. Whether you want to play actor at home or for a living, the only person you need permission from is yourself. Staying alive is good, but feeling alive is better!

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Death Drama Queens

No matter what the relationship was, once someone dies... they border on Sainthood. Everything has a self- serving need to be part of the life of   the deceased since   they, for lack of a better word  
are
The Star of the Moment.
It is sick and twisted,
however, people who didn't really know the deceased
come out
of the woodwork and want to get in on the
limelight of Death...
Death Drama Queens! 

~~~~~~~ Stephie Pahlavi Zan

I Love You Always...Marry Me.

When I'm thinking about how beautiful you are......I stroke your face with my hand

When you cry.....I wipe away your tears

When you feel happy.....I feel  happy also.

When you feel blue.....I am your cheerleader

There are so many things and occassions that I will be there for you.

This is how I know I want to Marry You!

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

I Love Dogs

"If someone does not love dogs... don't trust them." 

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Eternal Love

Call on Me...

Call on Me..

Call on Me.

I am the Lover you dreamt about in your Angel filled Dreams.

I have sat awaiting your love for an eternity.

Please do not shun Me for I shall die.

My entire existance is the pure essence of You, My dear.

How you have entrapped Me like a Siren.

If I had known what I know now ..

If only I had known what I know now.

I do not wish to exhibit My Undying Love for You, My dear.

However it is completely Transparent.

Awaken

and see me.

I am your Destiny.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Silence Must Be Heard

Don't keep secrets in your body and soul.

They quietly destroy you.

Silence must be heard!

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

 

Holding On

Sometimes you seem to slip

and 

don't know know what to do.

What a life...

what a life.

I keep holding on.

The heavier the load

the harder I fight.

No one

will

keep me down.

I keep holding on.

I keep holding on.

Until God decides.

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Stephie Pahlavi Zan

To Dream...To Waste

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.
~~~~~
Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Importance

It really hurts hard

when you realize

you are not as important

to someone

as you thought you were.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Stronger than Before

My life has made me

Stronger.

I never knew that I had it inside me

to move up from the ashes.

My life is a victory...I am not a victim.

I have been through the worst situations

and

am still here.

~~~~~

Stephie Pahlavi Zan